Picking up on the Clues

Long time no blog! Mostly I've been posting links on my facebook page. If you'd like to keep up to date with these, you could 'like' me at https://www.facebook.com/YourSpiritualChild. In any case, this action would be much appreciated and help spread the good word!

Today I have something on my mind. See, it was Curly-Locks's seventh birthday yesterday. It's amazing and wonderful to observe the magic that happens after the first of the seven year periods, to see how he's taken another step in coming into himself. What a pity he started school last September instead of next. More and more research is emerging which supports a later-is-best when it comes to formal learning. But you know, sometimes children have their own protection. It's my observation that mostly his classes have wafted by him without penetrating too far!

Yesterday, though, something else happened which might have been quite traumatic for him. I only realized this when I lay in bed and thought back over the day. After school he spends time outdoors with a few other boys, under the supervision of a fun and energetic woman in the neighbourhood. They were in the park for his birthday celebration.

I, however, only saw him in the evening when we met him and the rest of the family for dinner at a restaurant. They were already there when we arrived, and straight away Curly-Locks said to me 'Look what happened to me', and pointed to his forehead. I gave him a kiss on the appointed spot, and noticed his skin was sticky-sweet. Anyhow, keen to wish him 'Happy Birthday' and give him his present (a tennis racquet among a couple of smaller gifts), I simply went ahead with that. Then his mom showed me some photos. Turned out Curly-Locks had received a pie in the face.

How would you like to experience such a thing? I don't think I would, especially seeing as it was likely unexpected (I don't know this for sure). So I regretted not picking up on the clue, being in the moment and giving Curly-Locks the chance to verbalize what happened.

In general he's a child who puts a brave face on. I'm hoping to find a time today when we can talk for a few quiet moments.

Mother's Day

Mothering is a sacred task, and  demanding one. We wish everything of the best for our children and yet, sadly, it's easy for us or the world to do them harm, psychically and physically.

So, dear mothers, this is my wish for you, their guardians: have the courage to go against the mainstream if what's usually done appears harmful to you with regard to your kids. Maybe this means saying 'no' to a birthday party invitation for example. From toddler to teenager, I used to make a point of finding out in advance what was likely to be on offer. On the other hand, know when to compromise and, perhaps, compensate.

But today, relax and give yourself some credit!